I was having the proverbial dinner and a date one evening and I got up to use the washroom. On my way back I heard my date saying "I'm sorry, I should have paused the movie for you". I waved it off with a comment "No big deal". I paused for a moment asking myself why did I say that? I used to get really annoyed with my ex-boyfriend for not pausing the movie when I left the room! Then it hit me...I was only saying that because I wanted to seem nonchalant...like it wasn't important to me. But it WAS!
Why do people accept behaviour they don't like at the beginning of a relationship and then expect our partners to behave differently later on? When you allow things to happen you are setting a precedent. It says it is acceptable to not pause the movie or swear or lie.
Don't be afraid to say what you want ladies and gents in fear of losing your partner. If they can't respect your wishes at the beginning they won't be able to when you finally speak up down the road. And trust me...you won't be able to pretend it's not an issue forever.
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